Month: September 2019

People don’t trade money for the things they value their money more highly than, Every negative answer you get is as a result of your assumed or perceived value.   (D.O.K)

Happy New Week friends,

I look forward to sharing with you Brilliant and Excellent tips for
attaining your goals, fulfilling your Purpose and making the world a
better place.

Bridget, a very brilliant writer has never won any of the writing competitions she participated for years. Her piece was always rejected and with each rejection, she began to lose her confidence until she couldn’t write anything exceptional. When we met, I managed to share some tips with her, she was able to change her perspective, and today her piece is being used all over the world for international dance drama and stage performance.

People don’t trade money for the things they value their money more highly than. You are being denied a job simply because your value does not match the required expectation. Every negative answer you get is as a result of your assumed or perceived value. While you think about some rejection scenarios that may have happened to you in the past, ask yourself, was I worth their value? If your answer is no, it is a good thing to consider improving your skills and building your personal brand to be strong and positive. If your answer, however, is yes, then be encouraged because rejection creates opportunities for change and can be an advantage to step higher.

Feelings of rejection, fear, and negativity happen, and everyone goes through this cycle. In my experience, even though my job demands that I stay positive, there have been moments when I felt discouraged and disappointed, a few times I have had to question everything quietly as negative. If anyone tells you they are always positive and never experienced bad days, that is a fat lie. But I have learned to celebrate rejection and learned to take the energy of rejection and experience a shift in my brilliance, re-frame it and see it as a gift and blessing in disguise. Now I look at people who rejected me to have done me a favor, saved me time, energy and money and given me an invitation to grow.

It only takes you and you alone to catch your vision and drive it passionately. Understand that not everyone is going to appreciate you. So many people will not acknowledge your brilliance and will reject your genius and overlook your potential – and that can be a good thing depending on how you see rejection. Walt Disney was fired from the Kansas City Star in 1919 because his editor said, he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” Steve Job was rejected from his own company. Albert Einstein was seen as having no potential, he couldn’t speak and read early and was rejected by many schools but all of these individuals took their rejection and turned it around, they went on to make history such that their names are still on our lips till date.

How to handle rejection and turn it around

1. Change the narrative in your mind: most of the time what cripples us after a rejection incident is the meaning you attached to it. Instead of seeing yourself as a failure and the cause of your problems, shift your focus to how you can move on and maximize the situation.
2. Use it as a feedback option: if possible enquire the reasons behind the decision that was made, critically examine the response and see it from the eye of the other person. Once you learn your lessons and improve your strength, discard the rest of the response.
3. Brave the possibility of rejection: instead of being afraid and refusing to step out of your comfort zone, dare yourself to change the narrative and see rejection as a good thing. People who have eventually succeeded in their field today were people who were all out, daring the odds and as the rejection mounted, so did their confidence to take the stakes up.

I challenge you today to put yourself out there and prepare for the next level of opportunities.

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“every action starts with an intention”

Happy New Week friends,

I look forward to sharing with you Brilliant and Excellent tips for attaining your goals, fulfilling your Purpose and making the world a better place.

What sets good outcomes from bad outcomes is an Intention. It’s not merely a question of good or bad but of results.

The quality of pictures taken by a professional photographer and any other person with the same Camera is the intention behind their actions. For the professional photographer, he has the intention of making a good and quality picture while an average individual takes the picture casually.

The other day, a friend was saying to me how he walks a certain number of kilometer daily to get to his workplace, incredibly, I informed him that I cover half of same distance every day during my early morning workout. What is more interesting is that this friend of mine does not appear healthy and physically fit despite the kilometers he covers to work daily. But I kept getting muscular, strong and physically fit body. What made the difference – same action but different outcomes.

For one, amongst other things, the intention behind what we do sets the foundation for which other actions are taken. I am trying to say that one supersedes the other, in varying situation, both our action and intention are important and sometimes our actions are actually more important.  

Set daily Intentions

Intentions are not the same as goals. While goal focuses on what you have to do and achieve at a set time, intentions are about who you want to be and how you choose to impact the lives of others.

Having a conscious intention to the things you do or want to do can dramatically turn your life around making you happier and the pressure of “perfect” off you.

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Good intentions are the basics of giving a gift, if the act of giving is not effective, the gift can rouse sour emotions.

Happy New Week friends,

I look forward to sharing with you Brilliant and Excellent tips for attaining your goals, fulfilling your Purpose and making the world a better place.

Some years back, my mentor gave me one of his expensive golf kit since he had several kits as we had almost similar hobbies and sports. The particular golf iron were of sleek design, and in excellent condition. Seeing how it met my needs, I was very grateful and immediately dropped my old kit. I was too excited to notice that I was playing above my handicap since I started using the kit.

By the time I noticed, I began to watch YouTube videos on how to use the golf iron and engaged the service of a Pro who eventually discovered that the golf iron I was using was the reason for my poor game. The irons were long because they were customized for my mentor who is far taller than I am.

Immediately I customized the length of the Irons and my game was up again.

While thinking about this experience, I started to realize the lessons that could be learnt that can make us better givers because I believe that no matter how much one gives, if on the other side, your good intention is seen as evil, your good work is not complete.  

We all want to be effective in our actions, to give a gift and know that it served it’s purpose and that we achieved the highest possible impact in the life of the receiver. When we give, it’s mostly from a place of love, of your beliefs, or out of a place of necessity- because you don’t need the item and maybe you need space for new ones, but whatever your reasons are, these two tips are worthy of note.

1. When giving an item that you no longer find useful, ensure that it is at least in good condition. This applies to basic everyday use that may no longer fit your taste but can still be very useful for other people. If it needs to be washed and pressed, by all means do so. If there’s need for some minimal repairs, as much as you can, do so because it shows that you understand the receiver, and that you are sensitive enough to do the right thing.
2. When giving a special item, a car or a special tool, always communicate the condition upfront. This is perhaps one of the most important principle and why is this important? Because it helps the receiver understand the history of the item and know the right steps to take towards resolving whatever issues the gift might have. A very good example is the gift of a car that has slight engine faults, if this history is not communicated, not only does it cost the receiver more, it can also portrays the giver as one who lacks integrity and should not be trusted.

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