WEAVING THROUGH SELF-ACTUALIZATION TO HELP HUMANITY THRIVE

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Maslow, in his theory of need, subsequently extended the idea to include his observations of humans’ innate curiosity and developmental psychology, some of which focused on describing the stages of growth in humans.

The main focus of this article revolves around the concept of esteemed needs. Esteem needs are ego needs or status needs which make people develop an interest in getting recognition, status, importance, and respect from others. There are people in which the only activities that gives them any sense of contribution or value is by engaging in a profession or hobby that ultimately rewards with the desired recognition.

Most people have a need for stable self-respect and self-esteem and Maslow’ theory has captured the two versions of esteem needs: a “lower” version and a “higher” version. The “lower” version of esteem is the need for respect from others. This may include a need for status, recognition, fame, prestige, and attention. The “higher” version manifests itself as the need for self-respect.

Studies have shown that, at certain stages in an individual’s life (both general life and career), One hits a stage where it is almost impossible not to fall into either of these categories as one struggles to define the motive and purpose behind our actions, intentions and needs.

Last week, the Match for Africa 6 was hosted in South Africa courtesy of Roger Federer’s foundation. In the presence of Roger Federer, Rafael Nadal, Trevor Noah, Bill Gates and all the Cape Town Stadium, the crowd raised $ 3.5 million, and the new record of 51.954 was recorded for a single tennis match. Beyond the media hype and buzz, this was a rare effort from a billionaire player who founded his foundation in 2003, and has since raised $40 million and hit its goal of educating one million children in Africa by the end of 2018.

As an accomplished player, Roger Federer has worked hard to have his name on top the list of the movers and shakers in sports. Even as he currently holds the position of the highest paid tennis player in the world, he has somehow found purpose in not just establishing a foundation but one that impacts positively on the haves-not in the society.

Akon, the successful and accomplished Senegalese-American musician also made a massive decision to carry the weight of charitable giving for his home community. His foundation, Akon Lighting Africa, provides education and training to African workers in installing and maintaining solar panels. A school has been created to teach young members of the community the power of solar and how to properly maintain the equipment needed to harness it. Famous player, Didier Drogba, has also made a positive mark in his home country, Ivory Coast. From playing a spearheading role in ending a five-year civil war to establishing his foundation which aims at providing financial and material support in both health and education to people in Africa.

Moving ahead, giving back to the poor and the society at large, should be a core part of the lives of billionaires and celebrities. On September 3, 2018, we published on this blog, the importance of making impact with our surpluses and as much as the tendency for the growth of esteem needs in man. Its imperative to always understand that our humanity lies in raising others. This is what our society should replicate and live for. If you become an accomplished businessman, celebrity or billionaire at any level, endeavor to give back to the vulnerable in the society. Enough of giveaways aimed at feeding recognition and popularity. Ensure to do more and encourage others to do things that would touch lives of others with the amount of wealth amassed. Indeed, a man should not be taught how to spend his money, but for the sake of generations and the inequality life is made of, humanity should be at the forefronts of our hearts. So while our esteemed need of having a degree of influence is being satisfied, the esteem needs of those who don’t have is also met. This way, we make humanity thrive.

DON’T GET DROWNED IN THE NOISE

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Marcus Aurelius once said, “Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.” This statement has never been less valid.

Purveyors of negativity might have brought their naysaying character at your dreams and goals, you might have been schooled several by critics of doom on why your already articulated plan would never work, never let their callousness humble you to their myopic opinions. People will always talk, but there is a need for you to always know that you are not to please anyone with your decision except you.

However, while Aurelius’ position resonates, he forgot to mention that sometimes, everything we think is not always correct and well-grounded too.

 It’s okay to align with the positivist and self-development perspective of ‘if you can think it, you can do it’, the truth howbeit is that you can’t overrule the realist nature of human to think wide, wild and sometimes wrong. The issue of what we hear, what we see and what we think are practical yardsticks that influence the decision-making prowess of a man.

A lot of times, we subconsciously fall into societal or peer pressure when making cogent decisions and we think it’s our mind and brain signaling such. Sometimes, we tailor our actions and inactions around what we see or what we hear without fact-finding or caution of doubt. Sometimes, we are elated by oratories, podcasts, and motivations without understanding that short bursts of inspiration that do not give specific sets of behaviours to focus on mindset shift and creating change is fickle no matter the goosebumps. You get bugged with the “trust your guts and intuition” mentality forgetting that there’s a place of self-efficacy.

Trusting your guts and intuition doesn’t mean they are right [at the time], your thoughts may just be wants and not needs. Have you thought of why you always say, “I want to have this, I want to buy that, I want to do this?” It is because you don’t need them. If you do, despite the ability to get those things, your mind will keep asking; “do you really need this?” It is noteworthy to state that in this clime, people, most times, do things out of societal demands, peer pressure, etc. You need to sit down and understand why your needs are your needs and why your wants are your wants. Don’t take to people’s opinions and regret later, by then, it will be you and your problems.

Taking decisions amidst what we hear, see or think requires using more than just discretion, we need to understand that some decisions will give you the short term benefit of ‘now’ but on the long term basis, will be a disaster and vice versa. By so doing, you’ll set yourself up for limitless progress.

Here are some tips for maintaining your sanity even amid the noise.

  • Believe in yourself.
  • Seek knowledge; read books, research contents, meet people, go places, consult professionals.
  • You need critical thinking to comprehend the consequences of whatever decision on your need. The holy book itself recorded that “knowledge will do you no good without understanding”.
  • Know when to draw the curtain.