Identity crisis is mostly confined to adolescents as though it is only a problem for juveniles, but, it is in fact an all-round problem irrespective of age, race, or social status because identity is something that shifts and grows throughout life as people confront new challenges and tackle different experiences. There are teenagers who struggle to identify their values just as we have tricenarians who constantly question their purpose in life. It is not limited to age.

Identity crisis a psychological crisis in which a person experiences uncertainty about who they really are and their proper role in life. If you are questioning things such as your values, spirituality, beliefs, interests, or career path you may be experiencing identity crisis. That period it seems nothing exactly answers your whys and you begin to feel lost. Identity crisis, if not addressed as early as it comes fuels mid-life crisis. This is so because a person who is skeptical about who they are will barely be internally satisfied, hence a forging life crisis brought about by events that highlight their growing age, and possibly lack of accomplishments in life that may produce feelings of intense depression, remorse, and high levels of anxiety, or the desire to achieve youthfulness or make drastic changes to their current lifestyle or feel the wish to change past decisions and events.

Looking at it from another perspective, is a state in which a country, organization, etc. is subject to disorientation and uncertainty about their true role. So, whilst it is nearly possible that you may not have experienced a personal identity crisis, you may have experienced it as a business or part of a business where the company struggles to operate in accordance with its supposed values, or when the purpose or value of a product is questioned. Whenever you are at that point, you are faced with the rhetoric question, “who am I?”

Whether you have experienced a personal identity crisis or identity crisis in your business, you need to understand that as humans, there will be times when we will be at odds with who we are, our values, interest, faith, and spirituality especially in a world like ours where society is bias, unfavorable, and highly hypocritical and poses as a threat, detecting who we should be at the expense of who we really want to be. A typical example would be that of a homosexual trying to integrate with the Nigerian society. This individual will mostly suffer from identity crisis because society does not support their budding identity leaving them in a psychological catastrophe. They will consistently question who they are, why they are the way they are, and not meeting with society’s normalcy, their interest, values, and whatnot. When they are not able to answer these questions, they do not only lose touch with life’s essence, they become depressed.

Although identity crisis can be dispiriting, what matters is getting out of it. This requires the individual involved looking inwardly and connecting dots that help them answer the big question of who they are. To deal with identity crisis, you need to be open to self-exploration and self-reference as opposed to defining self primarily in terms of other’s expectations or reactions. The more you self-explore, the more aware of yourself you become, and self-awareness they say is a key to self-mastery.

Secondly, find support. Having good social support can help influence how well you cope with big changes or questions of identity. Get people who are both good listeners and non-judgmental, and talk to them about how you really feel. These could include friends, partners, family members, support groups, or even a therapist.

Lastly, ignore internal and external judgment and support self-validity. It is true that other people’s expectations, as well as our own, can have a big effect on how we’re feeling, but don’t let society’s standards dictate who you are and what you should like. Living for people’s acceptance is just like being prepared to die from their rejection. The feeling of self-validation breeds self-confidence, and when that confidence creeps in, you are able to position yourself for a productive life.

Identity crisis, no matter how anyone tries to trivialize it is a big issue even than an economic crisis because people cannot function well in society if they do not know who they are and what they should pursue to improve their lives and impact that of others. Whenever you feel at odds with your identity, it is okay to pause and self-evaluate. Make time to connect your identity because being lost in the crowd is almost as worse as having no personal identity.


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When it comes to power and the abuse of it, we are all guilty to an extent. It could be that time you were given a position in your primary, secondary, or tertiary institution. Then, you took dominance and made class unbearable for that one student you don’t like for any reason. It could be you refusing to submit their notes or villainously enlisting them on the noisemakers list simply because they coughed. It could be that time in your office when you held a senior position and then repressed your subordinates. You’d subdue them to do your own tasks, send them on your personal errands, and tyrannically give them orders in such a way as if they would lose their jobs if they dared to say NO.

On the family level, abuse of power could be that time when you as the eldest sibling took charge and unequally served the food, keeping the piece of meat to yourself even when you were supposed to apportion it. As Naomi Wolf would say, “it is human nature to abuse power no matter who you are”, so we can only deny we have never been guilty of it.

Power is neither good nor evil. It is what you do with it that matters. In today’s world, the abuse of power we recognize and constantly protest against is the political abuse of power and that of the rich against the poor or the privileged against the underprivileged. Typically, when the battle is between the rich and the poor, the rich briskly use power and influence to buy off the case regardless of the severity of the offense. Whilst this is heinous and does not gracefully depict the change we clamor for in the world, it has become the norm. In fact, people now yearn for power not for the responsibilities that come with it, but for the gratification of selfish purposes.

Abuse of power leads to injustice, injustice in itself is corruption, and corruption as described by Joe Biden is like cancer that eats away citizen’s faith in democracy, diminishes the instinct of innovation and creativity. If the judiciary system continues to operate in the favour of people who have power over those who are truly innocent, the whole system will be in shambles, and the younger generation will effortlessly emulate such contagious evil.

When we talk about abuse of power, we usually focus more on top people in politics, world leaders, our bosses, and others in a higher hierarchy than us, but we must criticize ourselves with that same energy. With the power and position you have, have there been times you consciously subjugated someone simply because you can? Have there been times you exploited your subordinates at work because you are the boss and they cannot question you anyway?

Can you sincerely say you have never abused your power, position, and influence?

The reason you must first start the criticism with yourself is that you cannot live in a glass house and throw stones. You make the world a better place by making yourself a better person. You cannot oppress your subordinates at work, yet lampoon the government when they oppress the masses.

If you are entrusted with power or position, the reason is that someone thought you worthy enough and it is your duty to live up to that worthiness. The essence of great leadership is for influence, not authority. Use the power you have fairly and squarely because, at the end of the day, the measure of a man is what he does with his power.

What are you doing with yours?


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When people talk about success, they round the story up as if it happened by miracle or magic. “Oh, he hit that contract”, “she got that scholarship”, “he got that dream job”.

Typically, people give account of these remarkable achievements in such a way, you’d think the achievers relaxingly slept and woke up to milestones. But, taking a closer look, you will realize that every person who has recorded success at any point in their lives prepared for an opportunity that eventually materialized and resulted in success. What opportunities are you preparing for and how are you preparing for it?

Zig Ziglar said success occurs when opportunity meets preparation. This means that the easiest and most effective way success ensues is when you prepare yourself for both conventional and unprecedented opportunities. The reason a lot of people struggle with stagnancy and failure is because they have (un)intentionally refused to position themselves for life changing opportunities that will skyrocket their career or business. They have a static routine and never look at the possibilities of greater things that could happen for them unexpectedly.

It is better to be prepared for an opportunity and not have one than not to be prepared and lose out on one. There is nothing more expensive than a missed opportunity; losing out on something that could have easily been yours simply because you did not prepare well enough for it.

Regardless of what you do or hope to achieve, you need to make and take conscious decisions to position yourself for opportunities to easily fall on your lap. Preparation could mean upskilling yourself, expanding your knowledge, expanding your network, personal development practices, putting in extra work, saving opportunity fund (most opportunities will require you to be financially capable), or even seeking out chances yourself.

Opportunities are mostly disguised as hard work which is why people do not recognize them. Ideally, to prepare for something, you will need to improve your effort and dedication.

Also, let us not forget that if we want to achieve success, preparing and getting opportunities is not enough. We will need to act. Opportunities will not automatically become success because the path to success is to take massive determined actions. Action is a universal language to success. Just as putting in work in preparation for opportunities, you will need to work harder to translate them to successes.

To succeed, here are practical steps you should take;

  1. Take time to self-reflect and write out your goals.
  2. Get familiar with possible opportunities in your field
  3. Seek ways to improve yourself to be ready.

Success is a result of preparation, hard work and leveraging opportunities. Do all you must to be prepared for opportunities.


Recently, the internet has been agog with rape stories. Women are speaking and calling out perpetrators and this trend has sparked controversies. Some people are on the front row of the unsubstantial social media queue demanding justice in the form of hashtags, another quarter is merely there to follow the story heaving sighs of relief that they have never been victims, whilst the remaining quarter has settled to be defenders of the accused – rape apologists.

These rape apologists are mostly men or scarcely women who are not parents or are parents but not to a girl child. They neither understand what it feels like to be a woman nor know how dicey it is raising a girl child, hence their hasty justification of rape with a bias logic. What is the future of humanity if the people we call the leaders of tomorrow are in the comment section of rape stories questioning victims on what they wore to attract rape or why it took them so long to speak up?

Although this article is not to authenticate any rape story, we must learn that our actions do affect other people, and until we have facts to buttress our point, it is safer to remain silent. In the case of rape, only the victim and perpetrator have the facts; the rest of us have opinions that should not count.

Opinions are not facts.

For an issue as sensitive as rape, you need not carelessly speak for controversy or recognition’s sake. Maturity is realizing how many things do not require your opinion. Plato had said that opinion is the medium between knowledge and ignorance, so while you hop to different comment sections asking, “What did she wear?” “Why was she out at that time?” “Did she say stop?” “Did she try to fight?” “Did she not enjoy it” “Why is she just speaking up now?”, Odds are, you are displaying an irrevocable level of ignorance and conscientious stupidity. These sorts of questions only fuel the urge by others to carry out this dastardly deed.

It is totally okay not to have an opinion. It is possible to tell yourself that you do not know enough about a topic to debate on it. The world is the way it is today not because people do evil per se, but because there’s always a crowd of people with “opinions” to justify, undermine, and support evil acts. To change the world as we clamor for, we need to first change our thoughts, perception, and actions. Try being informed rather than opinionated. You never know who your baseless opinions would affect. You never know how many more assault victims are afraid to speak because people with “opinions” could invalidate their stories.

Don’t be a rape apologist, or before you settle to be one, think about yourself, or your sister or the daughters you will have tomorrow –or already have. If they become victims by chance, will you be livid if society asked why they didn’t walk around with pepper spray?

If we must walk the path of humanity, we need to be considerate of the emotional situations of people and show support especially when they are negatively affected. Rape is barbaric and should under no circumstance be justified. And, instead of making excuses for rapists, let us encourage parents and society to instill the right morals and discipline on the young so that they can master the subtle art of self-control.

My life Survey

Quite a several persons have decided in the past to isolate or distance themselves from technology and social media considering the negative effects on them, their children, the cybercrimes, and other negativities. Some people on the other hand decided to control their digital addictions by reducing how much time they spend on electronic devices. While some find it difficult to integrate social media with their personal life because to them, it’s not a necessity. There is also a category of people who find it difficult to fully integrate into society because the societal norms do not conform to their principles, religion, belief, or standard.

If you have taken any of the afford mentioned or similar decisions before, the probability is that you took that step to achieve a particular goal. However, you should understand that whether you are on social media or not, you are part of a community. Either online or offline, you are part of a survey and that your actions or inactions are feedback to a group of people, researchers, or gossipers.

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The moment I realized this, I decided to make my story great. I decided to take control of my life so my story and actions could be part of great and outstanding surveys. I decided not to intentionally or unintentionally contribute to low profile surveys like how much times does a man spend on Facebook, how many Nigerians are poor, what is the average lifespan of Nigerian, the average time spent on the internet and the list goes on.

I decided to be part of outstanding surveys related to impact, success, leadership, and other great feedback to whoever cares or eventually building history or lifestyle of influence for other aspiring people. But how did I achieve this? Priorities. I decided to analyze how much attention I gave to every one of my thoughts, I fact-check every information if they’re right or wrong. These facts were gathered by reading, research, a good network of friends, right attitudes, right movies and documentaries, meditations, and a few others.

William James once said the art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook. This was what I practiced daily, I took surveys of all the calls and emails I got daily and saw the kind of people I attracted and how they affected me. Then I got them filtered in line with my goals.

With time, I was able to get clarity on how I want my future to be, my social media pages became a reflection of me; inspirational, thought-provoking, and life to those following me.

I want you to answer these rhetorical questions. How do you want to be described? What do you want to be remembered for? What would be your legacy? To answer these questions, the very first thing to do is that you have to control your own life, however, that can’t be achieved without you living your life according to your priorities. So how do you go about that?

  1. Plan your time, days, and activities carefully. This helps your efficiency and effectiveness of your goals.
  2. Follow your plan. According to the survey, 7 out of 10 people always have a plan, the problem is that they don’t follow them. If you plan but don’t follow suit, your result will be the same as someone who does not have a plan at all.
  3. Invest in the right people daily. The time you spend with others can be a great investment, choose whom you’ll invest in wisely.

With these action points, I can tell that you are on course to living a fruitful and fulfilled life either on social or physical community.  

The bottom line is, “how do you want to be described, remembered or patronized”?

What and who are you influencing?

You have all it takes to control your own life and make the right decisions. You have the power to affect the world positively in your own little way if you will only decide to.

You need to take a survey of your life right now.

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The power of Discipline and Consistency

In a charity match played in 1986 to promote the fight against drugs and corruption, Diego Maradona wore a jersey that had on it, “No to drugs” while Michel Platini wore a jersey with the words, “say no to corruption” written boldly on it. In August 1994, Diego Maradona was banned from football for 15 months for drug abuse while Platini was banned from football for life in December 2015 on corruption charges.

In the thought of it, what could have made these football stars effortlessly jeopardize their life-long personality and what could have been an unsullied legacy? -The lack of discipline and consistency!

There is no mention of discipline without consistency. Of all the goals you set for yourself, none will ever be successful without discipline and consistency. It is not discipline, but the consistency of it that determines success.

Discipline is consistency in action. Consistency is the ability to do or act in the same way over time for as long as it takes to attain your goals. This means to succeed; you need to be disciplined as much as you need to be consistent with it. Discipline is important as it builds self-control and helps to maintain focus on your goals whilst consistency -above other things- helps you gain momentum and mastery.

Failure on the path to success is mostly not due to the lack of strategic or effective planning, but the lack of self-discipline and consistency. People are often eager to take up a position, begin a new venture, or start a task with enthusiasm. They make a plan and decide on old habits to drop or new habits to pick to achieve a goal, but somewhere along the line they become inconsistent. They are disciplined enough to start but will subsequently struggle to keep up with that habit they need to succeed. Just like an overweight woman who sternly decides to hit the gym and cut down on high-calorie food. After the first few days she begins to skip her workout routine and resume consuming those high-calorie foods she wants to abstain from. At the end of the day, guess whose weight loss goal will not achieved due to lack of discipline and consistency?

We’ve all been in situations where we know what we need to do, have the resources needed to start but become inconsistent. The consequence is that those goals will not be accomplished or will take longer time than estimated to be achieved.
In your life and work, understand that to achieve your goals, you need to master the art of discipline and consistency. And, never confuse movement with progress because you can run in place and not get anywhere.

To stay disciplined and consistent with goals, you must;

  1. Write down your short- term and long-term goals that are measurable. Doing this will enable you track your progress and know whether you are consistent or not. It will also help in maximizing how you channel your efforts towards specific tasks.
  2. Create a daily routine and place reminders around your home or workplace.
  3. Find an intrinsic motivation i.e. something to look forward to at the end of your daily task.
  4. Minimize/ detox distractions that take you away from your goals. Starve your distractions; feed your focus.
  5. Leverage motivational tools to keep you going even when you don’t feel like it. These tools can be in form of books, podcast and advices. Motivation is like food. it is needed time after time to revitalize.
  6. Don’t be discouraged by the mistakes you make along the way. It is okay to make mistakes as long as you learn from them.
  7. Hold yourself accountable. Accept responsibility for your actions, be accountable for your results, and take ownership of your mistakes. Accountability is the glue that ties commitment to the result.

Barack Obama’s Message to the World

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Barack Obama’s commencement address is a message to the world and we must take responsibility now. We must be in charge and ask the right questions.
In so many ways, you’ve already started to lead in your circles of influence; family, community, worship centers, institutions and among your peers and colleagues even when no one is watching.

Barack Obama’s commencement address is a message to the world and we must take responsibility now. We must be in charge and ask the right questions.

In so many ways, you’ve already started to lead in your circles of influence; family, community, worship centers, institutions and among your peers and colleagues even when no one is watching. With all the challenges the world is facing now, no one is too young to understand that with the selfishness and greed of older generations, their thoughts, decisions, and actions have brought us to where we are today. But this is our responsibility to bring the world to shape.

The power rests in our hands as youths and not in the hands of the Old guys who have always feared to embrace change.
The recent pandemic is a clear picture of our unpreparedness to unite to save the world as we still battle with irrelevant problems from massive economic inequality to ongoing racial disparities to a lack of basic health care for people who need it. It’s obvious to our generation that the old ways of doing things just won’t continue to work when we think just about ourselves.

The hard truth that has also been exposed is that we all need to unite and be involved. We should not leave it to those adults that we had always thought were in charge as it has been exposed that they don’t have all the answers. A lot of them aren’t even asking the right questions. So, if the world’s going to get better, it going to be up to us.We have all gone through tough times before — slavery, civil war, famine, disease, and each time we came out stronger, usually because a new generation, young people like us, learned from past mistakes and figured out how to make things better.

What next?

In your immediate environment, strive to do what you think is right. Doing what feels good, what’s convenient, what’s easy — that’s how little kids think. Do not get carried away by your age, religion, ethnicity, fancy titles, and job roles which have screwed us up.

Decide to ground yourself in values that last, like honesty, hard work, responsibility, fairness, generosity, respect for others. You won’t get it right every time, you’ll make mistakes as we all do. But if you listen to the truth that’s inside yourself, even when it’s hard, even when it is inconvenient, people will notice. They’ll gravitate towards you. And you’ll be part of the solution instead of part of the problem.

Care for each other, embrace partnership and community building. No one does big things by themselves. But if we’re going to get through these difficult times, create a new world, save the environment and defeat future pandemics, then we’re going to have to do it together. So be alive to one another’s struggles. Stand up for one another’s rights. Leave behind all the old ways of thinking that divide us — sexism, racial prejudice, status, greed — and set the world on a different path.

Managing my Social media and E-mail accounts after death. “Digital Will”

Unavoidably distracted by gunshots and noise emanating from the ongoing riot at the park, I moved closer to take a peek at what was going on. There lied before me, Aremu, the local bus transport Chairman, in the pool of his own blood. Still. Cold. Dead. Aremu was gunned down in his own territory by thugs who wanted to take over the park. As a Nigerian, this is a very familiar scenario. If you are not a Nigerian, you may want to click on the link below for insight.

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I enjoyed my weekly conversations with Aremu.

Aremu was the local yellow bus (popularly known as ‘Danfo’) transport Chairman in my community. In the park, local buses are queued according to allocated number slots and take turns to load passengers.

To my greatest shock, our conversations led me to discovering he was a Masters Degree holder! His thought provoking opinions and astonishing level of reasoning was enough proof to back that up. An in-depth analysis of how he came to own 60% of the buses at the park as well as his personal brand can be coined into a very interesting masterclass for any aspiring entrepreneur.

After his demise, his personal brand faded the way a yellow “danfo” painting becomes white.

Isaac Asimov said, “Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It is only the transition that is troublesome”

Ever wondered what happens to your brand of a person after your demise? Ever thought about what becomes of the security and importance you have attached to your social media platforms, emails, cloud documents and their passwords?  

The transition to death is the reality of leaving behind everything we could not do without when we had life. Those things we lived to love, adore, and acquire through hard work, fate, and/ or serendipity.  The things that made us feel important like our family, friends, awards, achievements, degree, toys and yacht, jets and the sophisticated closet that housed collections of jewelries and designers. It is leaving behind everything including that electronic pal that had secured our personality, identity, and brand while we lived -our phones.

But why should personality matter to the dead anyway? The society will always try to reconcile what you portrayed as your personality and brand in comparison with the true reality which reveals itself after your demise.

A Father who used to be a god figure to his children may now become imperfect to them. The principled & faithful husband may become a Casanova to his wife. The astute boss will not be so clever anymore because the world had managed to know one little dirty secret you hid in the four walls of that phone or email you left behind. And worse, there is no guarantee you would be given an opportunity for explanations. Depending on whatever the known secret is, a person’s personality –the image they had spent their life building – becomes tainted. So many legacies has faded away as a result of this.

Your personal brand is the heartbeat of your influence and legacy. Once your brand dies, the influence and perception your personality commands may follow with time if the right structure is not in place.

Though, there is a new trend of tying personal brand with a corporate brand in order to ensure corporate success, promote family business and sustainability. While this is done with the mindset of expanding wealth for the company or family, this might as well just be an activity that would close the gap on the uncertainties of personal brands after the death of an individual.

Now you may have been wondering what happens to that account and phone of yours when you pass on.  You may be surprised to know that Michael Jackson’s Twitter handle is still as active as it was before his death years ago.  

Maintaining a presence online after you die has its share of problems as well. Mean-spirited people — called trolls in the online world — might take the opportunity to leave insulting or inflammatory comments on your page just to stir up trouble. Who guards your profile after you are gone? Can someone request access to your accounts to act as custodian to your online presence?

The answer varies from one site to another. Each company creates its own policies. Some, like Myspace, do so on a case-by-case basis. Others, like Facebook, establish rules that allow friends and relatives to transform a normal profile into a memorial.


  1. Appoint someone as online executor
  2. State in a formal document how profiles and accounts are handled
  3. Understand privacy policies
  4. Provide online executor list of websites and logins
  5. State in the will that the online executor must have a copy of the death certificate

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Restoring Hope by Making People Matter.

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We got so much responses and request to share more on our earlier post about impact that outlives and we have decided to yield to your request today.


Your legacy is what you do every day, your actions, those who you have impacted, met and touched. Both in your neighborhood and the entire globe. Either through your words, actions, job, events, family, the list goes on.

Can we also remind ourselves that everyone wants validation, we all want to be seen and heard, when people are validated and they know what they say and do mean something to you, then they understand that they matter, that is the deepest reality and desire that we all share.

Often, in times of confusion, it seems like no matter how we try, something is bound to go wrong. When we believe that we do not deserve much happiness or success, hiding beneath the surface is the absence of hope.

Hope is grounded in reality and loss of hope is grounded in the past, old wounds, low self-esteem, negative beliefs, and disappointed expectations. These are phantoms of the mind and they are real because they fear they generate will protect us from further pains.

when someone is losing hope, they will find a solution if they are guided by a deeper reality within themselves, reassuring them that some external factor will solve their insecurity. More importantly, without basing your hope on present awareness, the fear of anxiety never goes away. Ideally, the part of self-awareness is opened through meditation. If this is not visible for other persons, you can still inspire hope in them. Remind them that they are strong and appreciated.

To make hope realistic to someone, you have to listen from the level of the heart. Don’t try to change a situation by your preconception. Let your insight to what is needed come up of its own accord. When you do speak, talk to the hope you see in the person and make it clear a present moment is a place of hope because it is the only place where change can happen.

Yesterday and tomorrow are only ideas. Your action plan is to bring no judgment or expectation but to offer help and share love and therefore keeping everything real. By your example, you show that the unknown is not fearful but an opening to renewal and change.

I put it to you again, what do you want to be known and remembered for? If you desire an impact that outlives, your legacy should be every lives you’ve touched.